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Safety Always Comes First

Until a victim of domestic violence has complete safety and feels that the police and those protecting her or him is believed and feels safe. No other steps can happen safety always comes first and needs to be there for any other step to be taken. A victim will not leave a violent situation without…

Believe Children When They Tell You They Have Been Abused

My son was sexually abuse by his stepsister and the father and both times I believed and supported him with counselling and love. It is easy to try to make it go away but the problem is sexual assault damage does not go away until you get support and work on the issues. You just…

What Happens In The Honeymoon or Reconciliation Cycle

I remember this cycle so well when I was living in domestic violence. I would have a restraining order on my abuser and he would repeatedly come back to me and beg me to lift it and take it off him. That he was so sorry for what he has done to me that never…

What Happens When You Are Kept In Captivity?

When you are kept in captivity it means that your abuser is able to continually abuse you over and over again with no way out hour after hour and day after day. No way of getting help and no relief from what is happening to you no contact with the outside world at all. I…

How To Help Someone Who Is Very Stressed Out And Distressed

What to do when a person is very stressed out and distressed. I know that for me the thing that works is to use the softly approach. I believe that the more stressed out you are the gentler and more simplier the approach. Never use anger or rough treatment with a traumatized person as this…

Model What You Want Your Children To Be As Adults

What your children remember and learn from is what you show and teach them you are a model as to how an adult behaves. So make sure that you are modelling what you want them to grow up to be as children copy their parents behaviour.  Teach them about good communication skills and how to…

Verbal Abuse Is Very Damaging To You

  This is another type of abuse and often happens as the first stage of domestic violence. It can be just little unkind comments in the beginning until it ends up happening all day long. Until the person who experiences this loses themself and they start to believe the bad horrible things that are said…

Role Models Why These Matter

We have all heard about having good role models but why do these matter and do they make a difference. Well research has found that having good role models do really matter in children’s life.  Just having one person like this connected to a child makes all the difference in the world. Someone for them…

Mental Health and Domestic Violence

  Mental Health and Domestic Violence   Many domestic violence victims suffer with mental health issues as a result of domestic violence. Some of the mental health issues you can have are depression, anxiety, post traumatic stress disorder, sucide thoughts and self harm. If you suffer from these then you need to get some support…

Elder Abuse what is it and what can we do about it?

Here is some helpful information I wrote to help you to stop elder abuse happening to your loved ones.    The signs of Elder abuse? Unexplained marks on the body  Breaks for no reason  Reacting differenly than normal Withdrawn behaviour, being very stressed Unexplained amounts of money gone Feeling frightened and afraid, not being themselves…