What Is An Abuser

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Abusers And Psychopaths

Some abusers are psychopaths if someone that you are with has all these traits they are a psychopath. You need to leave them as soon as possible and as quietly as you can. Don’t confront them or let them know you are aware they are a psychopath just leave fast!

Here are the twenty traits as listed by Dr Robert Hore.

  • Pathological lying
  • Glib and Superficial Charm
  • Grandiose sensory self
  • Need for stimulation
  • Cunning and Manipulative
  • Lack of remorse or guilt
  • Shallow emotional response
  • Callousness and lack of any empathy
  • Parasitic lifestyle
  • Poor behaviour
  • Sexual promiscuity
  • Early behaviour problems
  • Lack of realistic long term goals
  • Impulsive
  • Irresponsibility
  • Failure to accept responsibility
  • Many short term marital relationships
  • Juvenile
  • Revocation of conditional release
  • Criminal versatility

Here are some other things that are said about psychopaths. They are very charming and will mirror your hopes and dreams. They will make you think that they love everything that you love and are interested in the same things as you. In the beginning they will focused on making sure you get what you want. They will identify and use your insecurities to make you like them more. You will be the most gorgeous person. They will make you feel very special. They will gain your trust early on telling you something personal about them. They will tell you impressive stories about themselves they will convince you that it is true. They will manipulate your sympathy telling you terrible stories about their life all to gain your sympathy. It is to gain your pity and your attachment to them. If you feel sorry for them you will be less judgemental and vulnerable to them. They will surround themselves with fans all to get you hooked. They will abandon you all to make you feel that you are unlucky they are not in your life. You will feel continually anxious about the relationship with them. They will have no past they do not want you to meet anyone in their past because it is all bad. They will sabotage and sever your healthy relationships. They will work hard to cut you off from your support. You will feel uncomfortable with your friends and family because of them. They want you to be dependant on them and them only. They are jealous of what you have and how you are.

They will lie continually to you often for no reason they will always have a plausible explanation. Nothing is ever their fault. They will rationalise their behaviour but never change it. They will deny their bad behaviour. They dismiss your attempts to prove evidence of their lies. After conversations with them you will doubt yourself and your sanity. You will be accused of being too sensitive. They are parasitics you will pay for everything. They will use your home, your car, they will borrow money and never return it to you. Once they have used you they will discard you because you will not be of benefit to them any more. You will be dropped like a hot potato. They will love bomb you to suck you in so they can use you. They will two time you. When they decide they can’t use you any more they will leave you with no notice. You will feel empty, shocked, isolated and insure and sometimes insane when they have finished with you. They will have a history of very messy bad relationships. They will leave a trail of heartbreak behind them. They will not own up to there own short comings everything is everybody else’s fault. They are impulsive and unpredictable everything will be a joke but it is not. They think they are really, really awesome but they are not. They think the world owes them everything. They have an inflated sense of self. There is no sign of remorse for their actions. They will keep you off balance. They will lie for no reason at all. They will seek out entertainment and stimulation they have trouble being still. They treat people and animals like rubbish. They are manipulative and evil. They will belittle you and make fun of you. Or physically hurt you. They get a kick out of embarrassing you. They have very charming personalities. They wear a mask of sanity to fool you and to suck you in. They will play into your trust. They use over the top flattery. They will work you up to a state of obsessive frenzy and try to make you jealous then pull away.

You need to understand with this many problems there is something more serious at play than the excuses they use. The best thing you can do is to keep right away from them.