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Christmas Message From Stop All Domestic Violence Inc

Many of us are hurting, alone, under financial pressure, overwhelmed even angry and not feeling very happy at this time even though it is Christmas. But it is important to remember to be kind with small acts of kindness that we can do for others. Think about how you can help someone who is alone…

Threats To Harm You Family Or Pets

Many abusers have threatened victims with lots of different threats. I have heard them all and they are part of the need to control and manipulate you into doing what they want you to do. if you get educated in domestic violence you will see about this in the power and control wheel that is…

Support After Being In Domestic Violence

Getting yourself some support after domestic violence is invaluable to help you in so many ways to heal and to have a better life. Go to your local Woman’s centre or crisis centre for help they have great support services available to you. They can help you with housing, educating you about domestic violence, court…

How To Write A Letter To Help You Heal?

Often we have conversation that we need to take but we can’t because the person has died or we don’t have contact with them anymore. Sometimes it is not safe for us to contact them to say what we need to say to them to heal our internal wounds. So here is a process that…

Safety Always Comes First

Until a victim of domestic violence has complete safety and feels that the police and those protecting her or him is believed and feels safe. No other steps can happen safety always comes first and needs to be there for any other step to be taken. A victim will not leave a violent situation without…

Believe Children When They Tell You They Have Been Abused

My son was sexually abuse by his stepsister and the father and both times I believed and supported him with counselling and love. It is easy to try to make it go away but the problem is sexual assault damage does not go away until you get support and work on the issues. You just…

What Happens In The Honeymoon or Reconciliation Cycle

I remember this cycle so well when I was living in domestic violence. I would have a restraining order on my abuser and he would repeatedly come back to me and beg me to lift it and take it off him. That he was so sorry for what he has done to me that never…

What Happens When You Are Kept In Captivity?

When you are kept in captivity it means that your abuser is able to continually abuse you over and over again with no way out hour after hour and day after day. No way of getting help and no relief from what is happening to you no contact with the outside world at all. I…

How To Help Someone Who Is Very Stressed Out And Distressed

What to do when a person is very stressed out and distressed. I know that for me the thing that works is to use the softly approach. I believe that the more stressed out you are the gentler and more simplier the approach. Never use anger or rough treatment with a traumatized person as this…

Little Book Of Tips To Feeling Better

We all have times when we feel very stressed but their are lots of ways we can help ourselves to feel better. Here are some of the things that I have found helpful and work for me.   When I am feeling stressed their are a lot of things that I can do to help…