Stop All Domestic Violence Inc

7 months ago

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Stop All Domestic Violence Inc

9 months ago

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Stop All Domestic Violence Inc

2 years ago

Resilience Song

We don't like these awful things
National disasters and Covit 19
We are sure they must be unlawful
For all those who have been thought them
They have been so god dam awful

Bridge
We are using resilience and due diligence
To improve our own experience
We are needing real brilliance
This way we can make a difference

Chorus

So tell me what have we learnt from this
Is there any good that can come from this
We are remaining grateful for what we have
So we can allow more to come to us

We are working on the finance
Also giving others assurance
Hope its not a lesser experience
Oh god we need some resilience
Will this ever end it been so rebellious

So our hearts are open and clear
For then the universe will give us more
So tell me is this all there is
We are so glad we have gratefulness
Our message is love not fear

Using this we can make a big difference
With all this going on its a mental health crisis
But we have called in all the great artists
To draw sing and create from this
That way some good can come from this
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Stop All Domestic Violence Inc

2 years ago

Talk To Your Children About Their Feelings
To be emotionally healthy we need to learn as children that we voice what we are feeling to our friends and family. By doing this with your children you are setting up healthy emotional ways of being. We need to make this a normal way of being and talking with our children. If you do not voice your feelings to those in important relationships with you, you will not be taking care of your emotional health. A healthy emotional person is aware of what they are feeling and is honest in how they talk to you and what they say. They do not bury feelings and thoughts but look after themselves and their needs. They say the truth no matter how hard it is sometimes to be honest. The only way to work with someone and resolve an issue is to say how you really feel. If a person does not do this they will end up with unresolved issues that they will need to work on later in their life. Sometimes it can be hard to say what you feel and be honest but it is the only way that will keep you healthy and doing what it good for you, your well being and the other person. It can also be hard to hear another persons truth and what they feel about a situation but you need to stay open and listen to them make it safe for them to talk to you. A person with high self esteem is an aware person who knows what they are feeling emotionally, mentally, physically they will do what is good for them. If your children have had a hard day or situation let them debrief to you about how they felt about what happened till they are feeling better about the situation. Make it safe for them to come to you and talk to you if they need to or you could have it a practice that you talk at the end of the day or week about their feelings. If they need counselling then organise this but don’t say “don’t worry about it” or “it does not matter”. Because the truth is it does matter what they are feeling about what happened to them. We know families where no one talks to each other about what they are feeling or what happened and this family will be dysfunctional to some degree their will be trauma to family members in some way because of the no communication and not talking about honest feelings. The truth is no one benefits from this just more problems and issues to work on later on.

Anyone who has been in domestic violence will know how it feels to not talk about what you are feeling and felt. How being scared and unsafe stops you from talking your truth to those around you and to your abuser. There will be secrets, lies and cover ups in this family. Often family members will not feel safe enough to be honest in their feelings and thoughts, their beliefs. This is a very unhealthy way of living and the person in this situation needs to get out of it as soon as possible as no one is benefiting from this. Domestic Violence creates a situation where people are not being honest with themselves others and don’t talk about what happened and how they feel, how it affected them and what they need to feel good, the truth. Domestic violence is very damaging to you mentally so you need to work on this till you are feeling better and are being honest about your feelings. ... See MoreSee Less

Stop All Domestic Violence Inc

2 years ago

What Happens To Your Children When You Have Domestic Violence Near Them?
Experts will tell you that there is terrible damage being done to your children when they hear or see domestic violence happening around them. Also it is a proven fact if you speak to any victim who has experienced this they will also tell you the same thing. The violence does not have to be done personally to them just witnessing and hearing it is enough to change their brains for life. Don’t stay for the children’s sake you need to leave for the children’s sake to keep them safe and give them their best chance of a good life. Every incident they witness is causing damage to their brain for life. Be a a good role model and leave for their wellbeing and safety. Its also a proven fact that domestic violence always gets worse so don’t wait for it to get better as it doesn’t ever! When children see or hear violence happening to those around them it sends a powerful message to them that their life and wellbeing doesn’t matter or have any value. Their self esteem is affected for life something that they will have to work very hard to fix for many, many years afterwards. Children’s brains are damaged by seeing any violence or abuse. Expecially in the first few years the damage from this is the worst to fix and overcome. Babies brains are like a sponge and take in every thing that is happening around them they know when their is violence. Children who are subject to this violence have many, many problems later in life. I understand that it is hard to leave. I really do understand how hard this is as I have been where you are and needed to leave for my and child’s safety but you need to be strong and brave for your children. Go for help contact the police 000 or docs or an agency in your area to get you some help you need to get out for everyones safety. Don’t give up keep trying to get away and get the support that you need for this. All domestic violence is a crime and it needs to be reported. Also all types of domestic violence are causing damage not just the physical the verbal and emotional is just as bad.



I have just read a book that talks about this called What happened to you? By Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D Perry MD.Ph.D. In this book it talks about real cases of abuse and the effects it has on the person. it also talks about how to help the person so they do better. I would suggest any one who is a victim of domestic violence or any kind of abuse read this book so you understand what it happening to you. Also those people who work with people affected by this need to read this book too. It will help you to understand what happens to the brain as a result and how to help the person so they can heal and do better. It is also very easy to read and understand with clear picture and real case studies used.



Here are some of the problems children can have when they may have seen or heard violence.

Low self esteem

Feeling of no value and importance

Long term emotional effects

Aggressive behaviour

Problems concentrating

Problems learning new skills

Depression and anxiety

Physical complaints

Always feeling to blame

People pleasers not standing up for self

Long term trauma

Acting out or withdrawn behaviour

Problems with social function

Problems with cognitive development

Relationship problems ... See MoreSee Less

Stop All Domestic Violence Inc

2 years ago

i would like to thank the following business for having our donation boxes in their stores. IGA Blackhealth, BP Katoomba, IGA Lawson, Metro service station Faulconbridge, The Food store East Blaxland. Thank you for your support of our charity. ... See MoreSee Less

Stop All Domestic Violence Inc

2 years ago

What Happens To Your Children When You Have Domestic Violence Near Them?
Experts will tell you that there is terrible damage being done to your children when they hear or see domestic violence happening around them. Also it is a proven fact if you speak to any victim who has experienced this they will also tell you the same thing. The violence does not have to be done personally to them just witnessing and hearing it is enough to change their brains for life. Don’t stay for the children’s sake you need to leave for the children’s sake to keep them safe and give them their best chance of a good life. Every incident they witness is causing damage to their brain for life. Be a a good role model and leave for their wellbeing and safety. Its also a proven fact that domestic violence always gets worse so don’t wait for it to get better as it doesn’t ever! When children see or hear violence happening to those around them it sends a powerful message to them that their life and wellbeing doesn’t matter or have any value. Their self esteem is affected for life something that they will have to work very hard to fix for many, many years afterwards. Children’s brains are damaged by seeing any violence or abuse. Expecially in the first few years the damage from this is the worst to fix and overcome. Babies brains are like a sponge and take in every thing that is happening around them they know when their is violence. Children who are subject to this violence have many, many problems later in life. I understand that it is hard to leave. I really do understand how hard this is as I have been where you are and needed to leave for my and child’s safety but you need to be strong and brave for your children. Go for help contact the police 000 or docs or an agency in your area to get you some help you need to get out for everyones safety. Don’t give up keep trying to get away and get the support that you need for this. All domestic violence is a crime and it needs to be reported. Also all types of domestic violence are causing damage not just the physical the verbal and emotional is just as bad.



I have just read a book that talks about this called What happened to you? By Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D Perry MD.Ph.D. In this book it talks about real cases of abuse and the effects it has on the person. it also talks about how to help the person so they do better. I would suggest any one who is a victim of domestic violence or any kind of abuse read this book so you understand what it happening to you. Also those people who work with people affected by this need to read this book too. It will help you to understand what happens to the brain as a result and how to help the person so they can heal and do better. It is also very easy to read and understand with clear picture and real case studies used.



Here are some of the problems children can have when they may have seen or heard violence.

Low self esteem

Feeling of no value and importance

Long term emotional effects

Aggressive behaviour

Problems concentrating

Problems learning new skills

Depression and anxiety

Physical complaints

Always feeling to blame

People pleasers not standing up for self

Long term trauma

Acting out or withdrawn behaviour

Problems with social function

Problems with cognitive development

Relationship problems ... See MoreSee Less