We have all heard about the horrific acts of sexual abuse of children but what can we do to stop this from happening? I believe that education is key there are simple things that we can do to help educate our children about this. One thing is to let them know that they own their… Continue reading Educate Children About Safe Touch Behaviour
There are reasons why a victim will not leave abuse which are many and include having a false belief that they need to work on and change. This can get in the way of leaving as you can have a belief like “You have to support your man no matter what” or something similar. Which… Continue reading Reasons Why A Victim Of Abuse Will Not Leave Abuse?
Many abusers have threatened victims with lots of different threats. I have heard them all and they are part of the need to control and manipulate you into doing what they want you to do. if you get educated in domestic violence you will see about this in the power and control wheel that is… Continue reading Threats To Harm You Family Or Pets
Until a victim of domestic violence has complete safety and feels that the police and those protecting her or him is believed and feels safe. No other steps can happen safety always comes first and needs to be there for any other step to be taken. A victim will not leave a violent situation without… Continue reading Safety Always Comes First
My son was sexually abuse by his stepsister and the father and both times I believed and supported him with counselling and love. It is easy to try to make it go away but the problem is sexual assault damage does not go away until you get support and work on the issues. You just… Continue reading Believe Children When They Tell You They Have Been Abused
I remember this cycle so well when I was living in domestic violence. I would have a restraining order on my abuser and he would repeatedly come back to me and beg me to lift it and take it off him. That he was so sorry for what he has done to me that never… Continue reading What Happens In The Honeymoon or Reconciliation Cycle
When you are kept in captivity it means that your abuser is able to continually abuse you over and over again with no way out hour after hour and day after day. No way of getting help and no relief from what is happening to you no contact with the outside world at all. I… Continue reading What Happens When You Are Kept In Captivity?
What to do when a person is very stressed out and distressed. I know that for me the thing that works is to use the softly approach. I believe that the more stressed out you are the gentler and more simplier the approach. Never use anger or rough treatment with a traumatized person as this… Continue reading How To Help Someone Who Is Very Stressed Out And Distressed
What your children remember and learn from is what you show and teach them you are a model as to how an adult behaves. So make sure that you are modelling what you want them to grow up to be as children copy their parents behaviour. Teach them about good communication skills and how to… Continue reading Model What You Want Your Children To Be As Adults
This is another type of abuse and often happens as the first stage of domestic violence. It can be just little unkind comments in the beginning until it ends up happening all day long. Until the person who experiences this loses themself and they start to believe the bad horrible things that are said… Continue reading Verbal Abuse Is Very Damaging To You