Well there are some practical things that you can do when you see Domestic violence happening around you. Always ring 000 or your local police station and report what you see. You can support those being abused and not stand by and  just watch. Be proactive about what you see and hear. Be a witness in a court room and make statements to the police.  Support victims to go for help and to the police station to make statements so the abuse stops.

Suggest victims get educated about domestic violence from their local community support services or they can see a personal counsellor. Being educated makes a difference because when you understand about domestic violence you understand that it always gets worse not better. You understand how it works and how abusers operate. Also about the different types of abuse which you many not have known about before. You also will learn how to spot an abuser so you don’t go into another abusive relationship.

Another great idea is to get victims to join a support groups so they are not alone and with other abuse victims. Being with other abuse victims is very healing for a victim of abuse. Because they realise that their is a pattern of abuse and it is not just happening to them. Being in a group of other victims they feel supported and not alone. This allows them to leave violent situation because it takes lots of courage to leave a violence situation. The more support you have the better and the easier it is to leave the situation.

Also another idea is to suggest victims work on their self esteem by doing a self esteem course. You can do this at home with the self esteem workbook by Glenn R Schiraldi PhD if you want or on line. Having a high self esteem means that you will take good care of yourself and value yourself. You will not let any one devalue you like an abuser. If they do you will do something about it and speak up if you are able to.

Another problem can be having false beliefs which was a problem for me it confuses you so you can’t make a decision which way to go and are stuck. See a counsellor or social worker for this to work on your false beliefs.

Kind men and women can be a great support to their mum’s, sisters, aunties and daughters if they get abused. When you speak up you are making a stand and making it not OK for it to happen to anyone. More kind men and women need to stand up and say no to domestic violence. This will help to stop domestic violence from happening. Report it when you hear it or see it happening in your neighbourhood so that it stops. If it is safe to do so say to the man or woman abusing Hey not OK to talk to that person like that stop it!

Moral : Get educated about domestic violence and speak up when you see it happening!