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What is Bread-crumbing ?

So what does this really mean? Bread-crumbing is a term that is used in abusive relationships where someone is in control of what another person is getting. It is a type of power play that is controlling the relationship there is a miss-balance of power being used on one of the people. The controlling person will control the supply amounts given out to someone to keep the person continually asking for more. They will make it so the victim is only allowed to get a small supply of their emotional and physical needs met. They will continually be lacking and will never feel full emotionally, physically, physiologically or even financially.  This could be by controlling food, clothes, heat,  sleep, space, time, equipment or even love. The abuser will only get some of there needs met and will have to continually ask for more. This can happen in many different types of relationships not just romantic but in families with friends and workplaces.  The reason this is abusive is because one person is holding all the control and the power of what another person is allowed. Any type of control over another person is wrong. You should be able to receive your needs freely without anyone stopping or blocking you. When another person is able to control the finances or another persons personal needs this is wrong and very abusive. Your friends and family and those around you should be equal to you not less. You will be trapped and afraid not sure of what is really going on and why you have to ask to have your needs met. Some victims have had to resort to begging a controller for more or what is right and owed to them. This shows you that you are in a dangerous situation and you need to get out of it. The abuser will promise to met your needs but often they will not do this. For some reason they think that they are entitled to control you. There is no situation that you should have to continually ask for what you need from another person this is not a healthy relationship at all. It is unbalanced and abusive making you sub-servant to another person for what you want and need. Living in this relationship you will not be able to be in your full potential to feel whole and complete.The only reason a person would do this is to control you. Often you will feel continually hungry asking for more of what you need and want, like to have to ask permission to get this. You will be gaslight and told that they have your best interest at heart but they don’t this is a big lie to fool you and keep you hanging on and asking for more playing their mind game and power play. Any person in a healthy relationship does not want to control or have you asking permission for things or even feeling less that the other person. Real whole love coming from inside not from controlling another person. Anyone who acts like this needs to work on their own personal self esteem so they feel whole.