Here are some questions to ask yourself about this!
What is ego?
What happens when you are in your ego?
What is ego death?
Ego is the self, it is what is your self and how you behave and interact with the world around you. What you think of yourself and what matters in your world? What is your focus in your life? What is most important to you in your life? Status, finances, being right, being the most important person, having more than others, being better than others, being at the top and in charge, giving orders. These are really important questions that will tell you if you are acting out of ego or not. It can also be your identity how you identify yourself in the world. What is most important thing for you.
A person in ego values all of these things like material things, status, being better and more important or having more than others. They need to be the best to full their ego so they feel ok about themselves and of value. They don’t care about others needs or value. Can not admit to being wrong about a situation or work on being a better person or helping others. They are selfish and abusive and often will be abusers and domestic violence perpetrators as they do not want to care for other people and their needs. it is all about them and what they get from you or the world, there is no give or take in this relationship. it is one sided only one point of view and only their needs that matter. Those who are stuck in ego will not care what happens to others only their needs matter. They need to have the best education, the best knowledge, the best car and house, the most money in the bank. They are often leaders and those who are at the top. They love to control and manipulate others so that they can win and come out best. Their motives are not honest and for the good of all beings around them but are all about them and pumping up their own self importance. They can only think about their needs and what is good for them.
Anyone around them and their needs does not matter to them. It is all about the self being the best. They can’t say sorry to others as being right is the most important thing to them. Their own life is above everyone else’s they can not see other beings needs.Those in ego will often need to be validated by others and not them self. They need to do more work on their self esteem to improve this. Working on your self referencing beliefs can be helpful too so you collapse all ego beliefs and work for the good of all beings and the universe. Those in ego are very insecure of themselves and are not based on self love to themselves and the world. They are covering up their own insecurity and projected this on to others around them. It is a win at all cost for them without caring who is hurt in the process. Often it is also about show and tell to the world of how good they are. Those in ego love to show off what they have done so they feel important to the world this dictates what their behaviour is and how they act and say. Their self hypnosis is an intense focus on themselves and their story. They have false pride and want to be the best and beat everyone else. This is based on their own self interest and how important they can make themselves feel. Their primary motivate is a sense of superiority to those around them. They are over confident of themselves can be difficult to handle will easy insult others so they win and come out looking the best, very self obsessed with their own needs, they have no empathy for others. Can not take responsibility for their own actions, will beat themselves up when wrong about something. Can not work on any growth or improvement in their life. They will speak bad about others and themselves, can not show kindness and value what another person says.
When you work on your ego and have a ego death you will feel at one with the universe and all beings in the world. You see everything as connecting as one working together and mattering to you. Also you will see the bigger picture of the universe how every person, animal, being, plant and planet matters and creates the one. It is often a spiritual experience for you. Doing mediation and working on your wounds will help you to have a ego death where you no longer operate out of ego.