Repressed Rage

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Repressed or suppressed anger occurs when you bury angry feelings instead of process them and let them go. Stuffing them down in your body caused illness in your body later on for you. This often happens unconsciously as a defence mechanism to avoid feeling these uncomfortable feelings. Anger manifest in our body and mind often doing more harm that good for us. We can process uncomfortable feelings by doing something physical to help let them go. We can write down in our journal what we are feeling here to help process these for us. As if we hold on to this anger it shows up in our body as stuffed emotions. We can then get physical aliments, chronic tension, unexplained headaches, migraines and digestive issues as a result of stuffing these down in our body. We can also experience emotional numbness, feelings detached, chronically tired or having a muted ability to feel joy or passion in our life. Displaced reactions, lingering irritability over minor annoyances, sarcastic outbursts or unexpected disproportion also fits of rage. People pleasing, a chronic inability to set boundaries or to stand up for ourselves, and to hold hidden resentment. Anger is an alarm system telling you your boundaries have been crossed or your needs are being ignored. People often repress these because they grew up in environments where expressing anger was punished or unsafe for them. Over time, you internalise this belief, that your feelings are not valid or dangerous, so your mind hides them for you. Next time you are upset like this and feel a spike of uncontrollable anger try feeling the feelings in a safe way for you as many of these are buried deep down into us from not wanting to feel them. This is called stuffing our angry feelings as you have been too frightened or unsafe to feel these. Find a safe way to burn off these feelings doing something physical is a great idea or go for a brisk walk or run so you can then process these feelings in a healthy way for you. Write down any thoughts that come up for you to work on this emotional wound so it can be healed. These feelings can also come from unmet expectations or frustration when you feel blocked, stopped or trapped in some way which is often a trigger for trauma survivors who have been abused in this way. Or when plans go wrong, or others fail to meet your standards, the result is frustration shown in anger. It is our mind’s reaction to a perceived loss of control or a violation of what you believed should be happening for you. Anger is a secondary emotion masking the real emotion that is underneath it, which could be hiding lies or deceit. Anger is a frequency used as a defence mechanism or a shield to hide more vulnerable primary emotions. Feelings of fear, grief, embarrassment, rejection or sadness are often too overwhelming for us to feel, so we use anger to mask these feelings for us. The brain coverts them to more active, outward emotions of anger. What you are feeling needs to be released somehow. All these unprocessed, unfiltered, feelings need to come up for us so we can safely let them all go. Don’t edit them when you write about these feelings say what you feel, express it in what ever way you need to that is safe for you. Shout, scream, yell, write it down and then burn the paper and see it all go back out into the universe as dissolved for you and transformed into better energy to use in your life. Punish a pillow, brake a plate, throw a ball, scrub a bathroom. clean a car, run, play a sport, walk in nature, swim at the beach. A lot of these feelings are repressed from our childhood, they are deep seated fears which can be hard to deal with. So find a safe way to release these feelings so you can then let them go and out of your body. This is anger that is held inside your organs and cells, your muscles, body systems. They have been pushed down and repressed by you for years, so you think you will not feel them again. But they come out when triggered by an event in your life. You can not see this rage from the outside as it is repressed by you. Many victims of abuse hold unpressed rage from the abuse they went through. Part of their healing will be finding safe ways to let all of this go. It’s in their body and often it makes them sick with disease. It is bottled up and then stored in our body. Often it is found in the liver, the head, the back, the stomach, the neck and the chest, even a clenched jaw can hold this energy for us. It is built up over years of stuffing the feeling down into you with the unmet expectations, underlying emotions, of fear, shame, sadness, perceived threats, biological stress overload. To clear these emotions we need to get to the bottom emotion holding it all in place so it is released safely for us. Anger can make us vulnerable with our feelings and protects our boundaries when attacked or overwhelmed by situation in our life. Or when things are way out of control and we feel unsafe in same way. It is a perceived threat or injustice that has happened here. Your nervous system is wired to detect danger when you feel physically threatened, personally attacked, disrespected or when in a situation that is fundamentally unfair, a primal defence response is triggered to protect your well-being also your ego. High level of psychological stress – as well as physical discomfort, like pain, hunger or sleep deprivation drastically lowers your frustration threshold. This leaves your nervous system highly reactive and quick to snap at the minor trigger. At the core of anger is a protective fight or flight response triggered by feelings of being threatened or vulnerable in your life. It generally stems from a gap between expectation and reality, but the root cause of the emotion depends on what is happening beneath the surface.