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Understanding Anger

This information is from my anger management course, own research and downloads from source. The map of conscious explained book. It can not be copied, used or stolen from me as it is copyrighted.

Anger can lead to either constructive or destructive action. As you move out of apathy, grief and overcome your fear you come up against your wants with desire, that leads to frustration which can turn into anger. Anger over your injustice, you experienced victimisation, and in equality, this allows you to voice your emotions. Anger can be shown as resentment or even revenge, it can be volatile and dangerous. Anger expresses itself, most often by irritable emotions or explosive, people being over sensitive to slights, quarrelsome belligerent, or even litigious. Anger come from a want we are not getting and is blocked off from us. Its frustration that exaggerates the importance of desires not being met. You can become frustrated and go into a rage, it leads to hatred, this has an effect of eroding on all areas of your life if not kept in-check. Anger is still down on the conscious scale, fear is at 100 the bottom of the scale, desire is at 125, Anger is at 150, pride is at 175 just after anger. We can lose power when angry as a need is not being met for you. We ask ourselves “How can I get my need met?”

What causes anger is wanting things to be different, being treated unfairly, being blamed for a problem, black and white thinking, also judging a situation.

How Does Your Body Feel When Angry

Muscles tight

Teeth clamping together

Hands clenched

Face, hands hot

Feeling like you want to explode

Crying

Wanting to lash out at others

Bang a wall, hit a pillow

Kick something, throw something,

Break something, wanting to hurt someone.

High blood pressure

How Do You Express Your Anger?

Physically, verbally attacking, being aggressive, threatening to others, pounding, breaking things, walking fast and heavy, stomping up and down, slamming doors, walking out, being sarcastic, using rude words, putting fists on to the desk, frowning, having an angry expression, brooding, swearing, criticising and comparing others, barking at others, causing fights, withdrawing the self.

When We feel Anger We Have

A narrowing of attention, our attention is on what makes us angry, ruminating about a situation that you are angry at, personalization, dissociative experiences, feeling numb.

What Helps When You Are Feeling Angry

Do something physical this helps to reset your body again so you are not reacting from anger. Play a sport, go for a run, a walk, grounding exercises, walk on a beach, go into a nature reserve, clean an oven, clean a bathroom, vacuum your house or car, writing down your feelings into a journal, listen to a podcast, a healing something to reset your nervous system so you feel calm again, mediation.