As a ex victim of domestic violence I have a lot of experience to draw on to talk about this and why educating yourself about it can help you. I have spent alot of time on the courses on domestic violence and the related topics eg self esteem, anger management, boundaries, Core personal values etc. So I would like to put some of this information I give out at my stalls to everyone on facebook so if they are going through domestic violence it will help them to do better and to know what to do. There are many different types of domestic violence. Here are the different types physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, stalking, bullying, spritiual abuse, financial abuse, mental abuse, isolation.
Isolation is when some one isolates you from others. They keep you from your family and friends. It often starts slow then increases as time goes on. They go everywhere you go so you are never alone or able to have contact with anyone else. Controlling what you do and when you do it. Not letting you talk on the phone to anyone or even answer the door to your house. Stopping you from going to family functions or to work. Keeping you with them all the time. Holding your hand when you leave the house to control you and keeping you compliant to them. They control everything that is happening in your life. Never letting you being alone with anyone else. Some abusers even lock the house so victims can not leave the house and they are totally isolated from society. Isolation can be in the form of social or physical or even both.
Moral Don’t let an abusers isolate you from your friends and family!
Physical Abuse
If your life is in immediate danger call 000 and ask for the police. There is also lots of great information on our website for you to read and educate yourself about domestic violence.
Shaking, pushing, punching, holding you down, slapping, beating, whipping, body blocking, restraining, kicking, poking.
These are all forms of physical abuse. It can be very confronting and shocking when this happens to you. There is one important message for you to remember. Abuse always gets worse not better so you need to leave this situation as soon as you can. Ring the police 000 or your local police station ask to speak to local Domestic Violence Liasion Officer so that you get the help that you need. If this person is not there then speak to another officer or leave a message. As leaving is the most dangerous time for you. So you need to get support from your local police station so you stay safe. This first hit of punch from your abuser is a warning sign (a big warning sign) that its time for you to leave and leave as soon as you can with police escort if needed. Don’t wait for it to get better as it doesn’t it always always gets worse. You are not helping your children, your family, your abuser, your sanity and your life are at risk so get out now! The kindnest thing you can do for everyone is to leave. Your abuser needs to do healing to stop abusing you and others. Remember that your reporting him can help another victim from being abused after you. As abusers leave a trail of abuse victims behind them, they don’t just abuse one person. Also this will help him or her to get the help that they need to heal so they can have a better life. You need to have healing too so that you can go on to have a healthy happy life and a relationship withour abuse in it. Get counselling first and repair the damage from abuse to you before you go into another relationship. Find out about the warning signs of an abuser it’s on our website or at our stalls. Get educated this will help you to do better and to have a happier healthier life.
Moral: Physical abuse is a a big warning sign to get out now and to stay safe your life and your children’s life are in danger so leave!